Obviously, if this is not what you want, you need to be honest. But for many people, being alone is really an opportunity to regroup, recharge, skip the tyranny of dinnertime if they feel like it and retain full command of the TV remote. You were married to a chronic cheater, and so you may associate being apart with being cheated on. Would you welcome - or tolerate - scheduled absences? You could ask him the open-ended question: “What would your ideal situation be where you could stay married but live the way you want?” He may tell you that he would love to spend one weekend each month hanging out in his camper. Your husband’s statement is a blunt bid for a conversation. Miss Manners: This customer made me cry after my mistakeĭEAR WORRIED: I think there are a lot of people in great marriages who adore their spouses and also fantasize about living alone - or at least being alone for some periods.
